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Karina, 18, Canada.
I like music, books, tea, animals, Hayao Miyazaki, and Le fabuleux destin d'Amélie Poulain. I post more personal stuff and opinions on here. check out my other blog if you want.

'i sit before flowers hoping they will train me in the art of opening up.' - shayne koyczan

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[12/364] - Song of the Day - There is a Light That Never Goes Out (The Smiths cover) by Citizen

♫ Driving in your car
Oh please don’t drop me home
Because it’s not my home, it’s their home, and I’m welcome no more
And if a double decker bus crashes in to us
To die by your side, such a heavenly way to die
And if a ten ton truck kills the both of us
To die by your side, well the pleasure, the privilege is mine ♫


Flyleaf | So I Thought

Two years ago today, Flyleaf lost their sound engineer, Rich Caldwell, in a car accident, leaving behind his wife, Katy, and their son, Kirby. Rich died at a young age which is just another jolting reminder of mortality and how fragile it really is.

So many of us, especially our youth, have convinced ourselves that being young makes you immortal somehow. That we’re automatically exempt from death at any given moment. But death doesn’t care who we are or how old we are and many tragic events have proved this. Death comes for all of us at some point or another.

You’re never 100% guaranteed to live until you’re 90. Neither are the people you love. 

Time goes by faster than you think so don’t waste it doing something you don’t love. Find what you’re passionate about, pursue that and take that passion to your grave with you when your time comes. And don’t forget to tell those you love that you love them.

Go and hug your parents and let them know you appreciate them for all they’ve done for you since you were born.

Call up a friend, spend the day together and let them know you care for them.

Let your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife know you love them and that you’ll always stick with them. 

Hug and kiss your children because when they grow up, they’ll be out on their own and you may or may not see them again for a while. 

Take advantage of what you have now. You may not have it tomorrow. 

“Of all the wonders that I have heard,
It seems to me most strange that men should fear;
Seeing death, a necessary end,
Will come when it will come.” 
- William Shakespeare, Julius Caesar 

"Rape culture is something that men should care about not because it might affect them, but because it affects anyone at all. Men should care about women’s safety, full stop, without having the concept somehow relate back to them. Everyone should care about everyone else’s well-being – that’s what good people are supposed to do."

"You’re actually really cool for a gay guy."



Graduating high school:


Suddenly having adult responsibilities:


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goals for this summer

- work on how i spend my money
- stop taking any chance i can get to get off work
- get my G2
- get back in touch with some of my high school friends
- keep in touch with my friends from uni
- get in shape (bike to work when it’s not raining)
- try veganism
- work on being happier
- work on having a better relationship with my parents (contact them more often)
- read tree of codes, extremely loud and incredibly close, fables deluxe edition book 5, and watchmen (or just 3/4)
- be prepared for uni when september approaches (don’t leave stuff to the last minute)
- roadtrip to new york with my sister in may



The Nexus of Porn and Violence - Porn As Reality, Reality As Porn.
[tw/advisory: graphic descriptions of sexualized violence]
In researching the intersection of the Abu Ghraib story and pornography, we found that Google searches on the prison scandal regularly returned porn sites alongside news venues like the New York Times, the Washington Post, and Fox News. As it turned out, when the media began reporting the additional hundreds of photographs and videos kept classified by the government, the lawmakers who viewed them described them with many of the same terms that violent porn sites use to promote their product. The most popular adjective such sites use to describe their product is ‘brutal’.

On Google, a search using the keywords Iraq, brutal, and rape, yielded 333,000 possibilities, and about half of those (of the first several Google list pages we took time to read) were for violent porn sites, with the rest fairly evenly divided between news sites and blogs. Some of the listed sites were examples of an Internet marketing strategy in which a site consists solely of a list of terms likely to be searched attached to another list of links to commercial sites.

On the first such portal site we visited, ‘Iraq’ was nestled between ‘girls raped and gay young teen boys getting raped’. The links, drifting down the long page, were a Dantesque descent past “violent sex movie” and “teen rape movies” to “illegal pedo rape”. The linkage of Iraq to these sites suggests a belief on the part of the site producers, at least, that their target customers are likely to connect it with a catalog of sexual violence. Given the events at Abu Ghraib, such ideas cannot be dismissed.

According to Bill Asher, president of Vivid Entertainment, one of the largest producers and distributors of hardcore pornography, fetish porn (which he sees as including violent porn) is the fastest growing segment of the porn industry. It is worth repeating that our goal in this book is to investigate the growing dominance of porn in our culture without, as much as possible, passing judgement on the morality of its production or consumption. It is difficult, however, to delve into the subindustry of violent porn without coming away disturbed. Given the presence of porn in their lives, it seems likely that the guards perpetrating the abuse at Abu Ghraib deliberately imitated the violent porn that now thrives on the Internet.

After all, the imagery of Abu Ghraib is readily available online, with actual women instead of male prisoners playing the role of “woman, the object of abuse.” In two popular subgenres of violent porn, prison porn and military porn, the porned images of Abu Ghraib have filtered back into pornography in fairly direct ways, adding realism to the violent imagery.

One of the most popular violent porn sites on the Internet is Scream and Cream, dedicated to all forms of “violent extreme forced sex fantasies.” Despite the fact that sites such as Scream and Cream - and there are many others - use words like ‘fantasy’, every effort is made visually and through accompanying text to heighten the “reality” of the rape narratives to which the sites offers access. Much like an Abu Ghraib video that Seymour Hersh and others allege shows the rape of a teenage Iraqi boy, Scream and Cream promises that their online videos include all the sounds of rape, in the highest audio quality.

Indeed, the uncountable sites that provide violent porn have entered into a realism race. The premise of the website Violent Russians, a popular site, is that women are first stalked and then raped. Despite enlarged “fantasy” disclaimers added in the summer of 2005, the videos make use of the gritty film techniques that Hollywood directors have chosen to convey “realism” (ambient lighting, film stock, and camera movement, for example). The site imparts to the viewer a sense of the lived reality of the onscreen stalking and rape.

Sites like Scream and Cream depend on free online tours to convince viewers to pay the subscription fees (usually around $30 per month), tours that show explicit stills and excerpts from videos. The “fantasies” these sites offer highlight pain and fear even more than they do hardcore sex. Camera angles focus on faces, goggle-eyed and streaked with streaming mascara. Mouths are open in screams sometimes silenced by large ball gags. The rapid intercutting between shots of penetration and terrified faces makes the locus of “pleasure” clear.

Sites like Rotten and Goregasm (its tagline: “Where bones meets boners”) present a mix of photos and videos of actual violence and gore with hardcore pornography. Within a number of such sites one can easily go back and forth from violence to porn, navigating from rape pornography to videos of American hostages being beheaded in Iraq, from the homemade porn of “my wife’s hot pussy” to hundreds of photos and videos of the bodies of American soldiers and Iraqi men, women, and children mangled and killed by gunfire and bombs.

It should surprise no one that the murder of Nicholas Berg, an American civilian taken hostage in Iraq, is widely available online, and that some watch it for entertainment. But the fact that violent porn sites became the most common purveyors of the video suggests that those site producers understand that a linkage does exist between staged rapes and actual beheadings, that simulated violent sex and actual violence are not only appealing separately, but for certain viewers gain in appeal when brought together, side by side, so that one can easily go from one to the other and back again.

What these gore sites do, then, is provide the Internet consumer with the opportunity to relive the activities of the Abu Ghraib prison guards, who similarly moved back and forth in their daily activities between porn, including violent porn, and the violence of beatings and abuse. Sites like Scream and Cream, Goregasm, and Rotten make commercial use of the same dehumanization that was literally on display at Abu Ghraib.


White feminists:



When you discuss the wage gap, here are a few things to keep in mind:

  • Only white women make $0.77 to a man’s dollar.
  • Black women make about $0.68 to a man’s dollar.
  • Latina women make about $0.58 to a man’s dollar.

Intersectionality matters.

Also, native women make $0.60 to a NON-HISPANIC WHITE MAN’s dollar. It is important when you are talking about the race/gender wage gap to note that only WHITE men are the ones making that much, not men of color.